Yesterday Mental asked me a strange question. At that time I didn’t think much of the question and just gave a simple answer.
Today I spoke with Mshairi and I asked her the same question. As a poet she ‘gotta be so conscious and serious about everything…â€? (Bubudiu). By the time I had put the phone down I realised that she was right about the question, it is very very deep.
What did Mental ask?
If Mama JunkYard and Kui met would they like each other?
I am not sure if I have an answer, I am just going to think aloud.
The only way I can truly answer Mental’s question is to break it down in to two parts. First I have to be willing to accept that Kui and MJY are two separate identities.
Very rarely have I made a distinction between MJY and Kui, my blog identity is me and I am my blog identity.
In fact the only time that I consciously made that distinction was when Nick and I were joking that MJY and Nicholas Gichu are sworn enemies but Nick and Kui are friends.
Part of the reason why it is hard for me to see any difference is because when I began blogging, I blogged as Kui. It was only recently that I named my blog ‘Mama JunkYard’s’. I had only intended to name the blog and not the blogger but somewhere along the way my blog family stopped referring to me as Kui. For a short time I was Mama JunkYard, then MJ and eventually MJY. (Mama Jacinta or any other variations do not count!)
I have always thought that anyone who knows me would read my blog and recognise a portion of my personality. To me my blog is simply segments of me (Kui/MJY) that I am happy to share with friends, families and anyone else who happens to visit.
Not too long ago someone told me that for a while they thought MJY (and in turn Kui) was a 40 year old woman. If I remember correctly I think their exact words were:
I thought you were an old mathe of 40 something
I am not sure if this was a joke. It did however force me to think about how I (my blog identity?) was perceived by those who do not know me. This was also part of the reason why I made up the JunkYard’s Junk quiz.
What I discovered was that for some people what they read here is the only contact they will have with me. This portion of me becomes their whole idea of who I am. I, as Kui may amongst other things be part 40 year old woman but to a stranger MJY is a 40 year old woman.
Does this make them two different people? I think in some ways it does. I do not know. I am willing to accept that while in my eyes Kui=MJY in the eyes of others there is no Kui, there is only MJY. To them MJY is…probably a 40 year old woman, or…or…well I don’t know. I am not sure who people think MJY is. Do I even want to find out? Maybe I am just a little bit curious…
As for whether MJY and Kui would like each other if they met? That is the second stage of the question and I am going to have to think about that some more. I think I will to read through my entire blog pretending that I am a stranger….
Hmm talk of Mental Acrobatics! Thank you for the tough exercise…dude.
While I try and answer the rest of the question I would like to pass on the question to the rest of my blog family and friends:
Would your blog identity like the real you?
Is there a difference?
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Mentalacrobatics says
Deep post. I should ask you more questions! Now that you have turned it back on us I’ll have to think about if for a while … hmmm!
Mama JunkYard Says: Ati ask me more? LOL You need to answer this first.
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Mshairi says
For me, MJY and Kui are exactly the same person. Perhaps this because I have known you all your life. You and I talk daily. I cannot imagine there is anything you will post here that I would not know about (even if you thought you had kept it a big secret, Auntie Mshairi will always know or would surprise me.
The only thing I think is different is when you write deep and thought-provoking stuff and I think, hey, look at this woman She was a little girl not so long ago and look at her now
Mama JunkYard Says: LOL @ aunty always knows. You know I tell you 99.9% of everything and our family are not known for keeping secrets As for the deep thought provoking stuff…si I was raised right….to think and think again.
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KymmBr says
hihi..hi.hii. am not laughing. am chekaring’ azin how do yu make a distinction between the real yu and the blogger in you? I guess me=blogger me. For real am not too sure..but i think if i were to separate the two, and then the different individuals happened to meet, they wud be the best of buddies. I think each wud find in the other what they donn have. As such, they wud spend so much time getting to know each other that they wud never be bored. On second thoughts…i think the blogger wud boast of being a creative jackass who writes about what the real me thinks. But the real me wud retaliate and make the blogger believe if it wasnt for him, he cubn’t have anything to write about.
At the end, i think the blogger and the real me wud merge and form one superbody…which wud make me remain the way i am. There is a blogger in me, and in the blogger there is me.
Whew!!….nimesema nini????? did anything make sense???….clean yu’r thoughts on me.
Mama JunkYard Says: Kymmbr…You made perfect sense! You have put into words a lot of the stuff that was going through my head. As for me…I just want to find out more and more about Kymmbr the blogger and Kymmbr behind the blog…you intrigue me sana
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Sonny says
Sonny=Sam in the “real world”, lakini seeing that I always wanted to be Bruce Wayne/Batman at one point in life, I indulge myself.
Content wise, I suppose I am more interesting in person. I have been known to charm myself and walk around dreamy eyed at the thoughts I thought to myself.
Sheesh!
Mama JunkYard Says I don’t know you or your blog personality very well but I think that both of you are interesting…in a nice way. Who else would quit the blogsphere and make a come back in the space of 48 hours?
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Margaret in Germany says
I think my blog identity would like me and I wish my blog identity would be more candid about some things.
I only told 1 friend about my blog, and my family doesn’t know about it’s existence. I think that if they did know about my blog, I would censor myself more than I already do.
So, to answer your question…Yes, we like us!
Mama JunkYard Says We like you too!
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nicholasgichu says
MJY and Kui are the same-but one is your blog-persona.the personality u have chosen to show and share.
As for me Nicholas Gichu and nicholasgichu are one and the same-hence why i never chose different blog name. just that as a blogger i may express myself better.
Mama JunkYard Says: Now you say MJY and Kui are one? LOL how opinions change eh? Ati there is a difference between Nicholas Gichu and nicholasgichu….of all the distinctions made that is by far one of the more original ones. It so hard for me to comment on either of your identities because I feel like I only know a bit about both…I am still trying to merge the two together and see if I can come up with one…hmmm does that make sense?
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Ms K says
Epiphany!!!
Or something like it. This is exactly what I was talking about when I wrote about my bloggers block. Its like I’m not sure where I end and the blogger begins, or is it that I don’t want too much of me in the blogger?
Would the real me like Ms K? She is Ms K. But only in snippets… bits and pieces. Ms K could never fully be me because, who am I kidding, I could never put everything I go thro on the blog.
Intriguing concept!
Mama JunkYard Says: This is exactly why Mental’s question confused me. MJY is just parts of Kui. I hope your bloggers block is over?
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Ms K says
GATHO!!! I hadn’t noticed me in the family section!! WOW!!! I am overwhelmed (seriously) WOW!!! Eh…. WOW!
Mama JunkYard Says: haiya I told you…from the minute you sent me details za family members…I knew I had to put up there with akina Mshairi and that other funny cousin of ours. I have no idea why she and Nick were making you jump hoops…ati sijui tuma applicaton…mara toa kitu kidogo…alafu ati adption court…
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Memoire says
I guess everyone has a different side to them – the side that people in public/etc see isn’t precisely the same side that people at home see, vice versa. I think that blogging is like that – the context of it is restricted, it’s in text whereas in reality 75% (or more) of communication is actually non-verbal, so people’s real selves in blogging can’t be whole.
Mama JunkYard Says: Thank you for mentioning the non-verbal communication. I had not even thought about where that fits in. More for me to think about.
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Carine says
I also thought MJY was an older woman. Maybe the word “Mama” led me to believe that. strange
this is an interesting topic…makes you wonder
Mama JunkYard Says: Oh..and here I was thinking that it was my mature online attitude that had you thinking I was older Again you have added yet another dimension to this debate on identity – choice of blog name.
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Life Moments says
Am sure it was quite a reunion!