I am one of those blacks who sometimes questions relationships between blacks and whites. I have never given anyone grief over it or said anything rude, but I think in America atleast, and probably in most countries, it is hard to ignore the fact that whites have been favored. At one point I believe that many blacks came to adopt white people’s view that white people are better than us and sought to marry white people, have lighter children, etc. It is a painful history and reality among blacks which leads to animosity at times. I am not sure to what extent this history still affects us today, but it was a reality for so long that it becomes hard for some to ignore.
With that said, it isn’t fair for you and your husband to have to carry the weight of history on your shoulders. I think your perspective and experiences demonstrates this point. Old wounds have yet to be healed between blacks and whites and this is the reason some blacks look upon black-white relationships with contempt. Again, not fair to you or your partner in life.
]]>Kui Says: Well said. The issue of taking away from his whiteness is one that people never think about. Though I think that has to do with the fact that whitness is perceived as the absence of colour, white is colourless/raceless hence white people fall outside of the race debate and are only ever included in relation to a non-white person. As for those ‘sister girls’ you call them; it saddening but true. There are those who really do think that white is better but we know that there are many fine and decent black men in the world.
]]>Kui Says Thank you Mshairi
]]>Kui Says I have experienced the whole ‘working girl’ attitude in Kenya especially in Mombasa. It is so infuriating. I remember once we went for a meal in Old Town, Msa and at the end of the meal I went to pay. The waiter had to call his dad because he could not understand how I could pay when I was in the company of a Mzungu. By the time we left I had posed for 100 pictures with various members of his family and he even asked if I had a sister who would marry his sons!
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