I really think she knew it was offensive, but chose to continue to ‘push the envelope’.
Kui Says: Such situations make me even more confused. If something is known to be offensive why would someone choose to say it? Furthermore, even if they get away with it first time why on earth do they keep pushing? Why should the onus be on me to point out something that they already know or ought to know?
]]>Kui Says: What was the ‘joke’? I hate those ones that leave me going ‘hmm’. As for Cosby, yes sometimes we do have to say it but in the process we seem to piss off our people…what to do?
]]>Kui Says: I agree with you in so far as sticking to your point of view but don’t you think the method used to point a point across should be tailored to suit your audience?
]]>Kui Says: It is usually when I am with people I don’t know too well that I get those mixed feelings and end up with no gut feeling.
]]>Case in point…I am Puerto Rican/Black. One of my VERY best friends in the world is White. When we were in the Army, one of the other white girls saw me one day and my hair was wet, hanging down my back. She made a joke and called me a Wet Back (equivalent to calling a Black person the N-word). I didn’t check her on it…but because I didn’t, she felt it was ok to call me a Web Back everytime she saw me.
After calling me that for about 2 weeks, I got mad enough to tell her to not call me that EVER again.
I blame myself, for not handling the situation when it first arose, and because I didn’t she did just as I allowed her…to disrespect on a regular basis.
I learned my lesson…the hard way.
Kui Says: Until your comment I had never heard of the phrase ‘Wet Back’ – thanks for bring it to my attention and thanks too for your comment. When the lady you mention first used the phrase is there any particular reason why you didn’t correct her? Do you think she knew it was an offensive term?
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